Keeping resolutions more difficult in today’s difficult world

I know it’s February already, but in the first epistle from HPD Psych Services this year, I have to wish all the readers of the Badge & Gun a happy New Year! Here’s to hoping you were able to ring in 2022 in a healthy, positive way!

How many of you all made resolutions? How many have already broken those resolutions?

Show of hands! Research shows that 80 percent of New Year’s Resolutions fail and that Jan. 19 is the day in which most resolutions have been abandoned.

I had a Facebook memory from January 2021 pop up about two weeks ago in which I had posted about choosing a word to focus on for the upcoming year (the word I chose was Discipline) and setting small, do-able goals for each month rather than grand sweeping goals for the year.

That post and my intention were terrific. The plan I presented was SOLID. However, when reading that memory in January 2022…I did not even remember posting those goals or choosing that word (the irony of my word choice and where I found myself).

Somewhere between Jan. 1, 2021 and Jan. 1, 2022, my entire, good-intentioned plan and focus for the new year had been lost and completely forgotten.

When I read that memory two weeks ago, it was kind of disheartening. How could my great start have fizzled so quickly and literally died within the year? I did not fully accomplish a single goal listed on that post.

I’m a goal-setter and typically have enjoyed setting goals every new year and yet this year, after reading that post, I have yet to do so.

I’m mulling over if there is a better way to be more intentional about the goals I set and my tenacity in sticking to them. I’m trying to find the path to seeing this new year as a jumping-off point for those things within myself that I’d like to be better.

But I’m weary and unmotivated.

I know many people have likely found themselves in the same space I am in this year. The past two years have been taxing on us emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually. The world around us does not seem to be getting better, so it’s hard to motivate ourselves to try harder or do better.

We don’t have to stay in this space. We can choose to do better. Speak softer. Be kinder. Help our neighbors. Put down our phones. Go outside. Hug our spouses. Laugh with our kids. Take a day off. BE PRESENT.

I do not want to get to the end of my days and not be able to remember the good stuff or feel I wasted possibilities. I am planning to sit down soon and set some goals…small, do-able goals, but actions that keep me moving forward and choosing to do better.

Will you join me? And just so I don’t forget…I’ll let you know which goals I have my sights set on in my next article.

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